by Jim Rohn | Feb 15, 2017
Resilience is the ability to return to the
original form after being bent, stretched or compressed. It’s the ability to
readily recover from illness, depression or adversity. How would you ever
handle it if you lost everything you had today? What would your next step be?
How long would you be depressed and upset and angry? What would it take
for you to pull yourself up and start all over again? How resilient are you? Could you handle it? Could
you learn from all of your disappointments and start all over again? What would
it take?
First, it would take a lot of self-discipline. It would
take a lot of positive self-talk to muster up the energy to begin again. It
would take a lot of concentration to block out the noise and the clutter of all
the negative voices trying to get through, as well as the negative voices of
others around you. It would take a lot of discipline to balance the fear and
anxiety with the knowing that, if you did it once, you can do it all over
again.
Whether your losses had anything to do with
you or not, your future success has everything to do with you. It would take a
lot of self-reliance to avoid blame. What’s happened has
happened. You would need to get on with your life and begin again. If you
lost everything tomorrow and were gathering the courage to try again, it would
take a lot of self-appreciation. You need to know in your heart and mind that
you have the skills, the talent and the strength to do it one more time.
Cultivating a resilient character turns
failure into success. A resilient person won’t give up. A resilient person
will, in spite of all obstacles and setbacks, keep doing it until.
In The Resilient Self, authors
Steven and Sybil Wolin list seven key characteristics that compose resilience:
1. Resilience requires insight.
You need to develop the ability to ask
yourself tough questions and answer honestly. If you had something to do with
your loss, be honest and responsible for it.
2. Resilience is independent.
As a resilient person, you can count on
yourself to bounce back into life.
3. Although resilience is independent, it’s also tied to others.
The more people you are responsible for, the
greater your motivation to begin again—the stronger the reason, the stronger
the action.
4. Resilience calls for initiative.
You need to develop the ability to take charge
of the situation, to take charge of the problem. You need to stand up and
do whatever is necessary to get back on course.
5. Resilience has an element of creativity.
With resilience, you are able to look at a
situation and creatively determine the best way out. You are enterprising in
your approach toward starting over.
6. A resilient person has humor.
You may cry until you start laughing, but a
sense of humor is so important when turning your life around. You’ve got
to take your goals seriously, and you’ve got to take yourself
seriously. But at times, you’ve also got to be able to laugh at yourself
and your situation.
7. A resilient person has a strong sense of morality.
Whatever you do to get back on your feet, make
sure it’s moral. Make sure that your upcoming success is at the service, and
not at the expense of, others. Success, if it is yours to keep, must be at the
service of others.
The more obstacles you face and overcome, the
more times you falter and get back on track, the more difficulties you struggle
with and conquer, the more resiliency you will naturally develop. If you
are resilient, there is nothing that can hold you back.
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